Experiencing burnout has become more common today because of the busy, overworked and stressful lives we live.
While we often related burnout to being overworked, it’s more than just being tired.
What is Burnout?
It’s defined as fatigue, frustration, or apathy resulting from prolonged stress, overwork, or intense activity. It’s also described as total exhaustion and not being able to go on.
Burnout occurs because of:
- Lack of rest and recovery.
- Lack of variety in our daily activities.
- Lack of reward for accomplishing things.
- Lack of motivation to keep doing what we have been.
- Lack of attention to our mental, emotional and physical health.
Other things that also lead to burnout include:
Knowing what causes burnout is a good start but there are also specific things we can do to ensure we prevent it from happening in the first place.
Our level of assertiveness is closely linked to our level of confidence and our willingness to take bold action.
The more assertive we are, the more confidence we’ll develop, which in turn, will help us do what we need to in order to achieve the results we want.
There is a fine line between being assertive and being aggressive. A person who’s assertive usually is:
- Self-assured or secure with who they are.
- Confident in what they do.
- Clear about the decisions they need to make.
- Persistent when it comes to achieving their goals.
Being overly aggressive, on the other hand, usually comes across as trying to exert power over others, which most times, alienates a person from those they are communicating with.
Knowing how to become more assertive, while being respectful of others, will help us get the results we want a lot easier without the need to force things to happen.
An unfortunate reality for so many people is that they give so much attention and mental focus to what other people think of them.
We’re programmed at an early age with statements like, “What will the neighbours, your relatives, your friends or your teachers think of you?” As a result, we’re conditioned to be cautious about how we show up in the world or what we reveal about ourselves.
Allowing ourselves to be influenced by other people’s opinions often results in:
- A lack of true connection with others.
- Feelings of not being good enough.
- Lack of confidence in our ability to be who we truly are.
- Fear of being judged by others.
- Reluctance to pursue what we truly desire in life.
Learning not to worry about what others think of us does not mean we ignore any personal or social responsibilities we have to others. It means learning to be comfortable with our daily decisions without letting others stop us from deciding what’s best for us.
For all of us, school plays a major part in shaping our beliefs, values, interests, and who we become as we grow up.
While school is an extremely important part of our early life and upbringing, the things we learn during our time at school does not necessarily mean we’ll be successful in life.
I remember after I finished high school, the next step was to acquire further education by enrolling in a university course. I spent an additional five years acquiring more technical skills via an engineering course.
When I officially finished my studies, I should have been prepared to take on the “real” world and achieve the success the success I wanted. The reality was a totally different story.
Not only did I struggle to find my place in the world, the only thing I knew back then was to look for a “secure” job. As I had acquired an engineering qualification, I realistically had the chance of obtaining a job in that field only.
After struggling to find my first job, which took me seven months, it made me question some of the things I had been led to believe about the importance of school and higher education.
Not having enough time has become one of the biggest reasons why we don’t do the things we really want to.
The idea that we have to fit in as much as possible into our already busy lives is a dangerous mindset to have. The reality is we have a limited number of hours each day and if we continue to have the mindset that “we can do it all” or “we can have it all,” it can lead to:
- High levels of unnecessary pressure or stress.
- Feelings of overwhelm or inadequacy.
- Mental or emotional fatigue.
- Physical health issues such as burnout.
- Slow progress towards achieving goals.
The key is to change our relationship with time and adopt something new that will enable us to utilise the time we have available better.
t’s quite easy to drift along in life, doing the same things over and over, hoping we’ll achieve new results and become more successful in the process.
Sometimes we get caught up doing daily trivial things that we lose sight of what’s truly important and what we want to achieve.
The truth is that if we want to be more successful, we have to take new action and also do things better. Becoming more successful will require us to use more of our skills, talents and abilities, and tap into resources within that we’ve not utilised fully.
When I self-published my first book, Hoops and Freedom, it was a real challenge as I have never done it before. While I was happy I had achieved my goal of becoming a published author, I was disappointed that I was not able to get my books into the hands of more people.
In order to have better success as an author, I had to face some truths and also do things differently next time.
It’s widely accepted that communication is more than just the words we say or write. Communication also involves verbal and nonverbal cues.
From previous studies, there has been a popular belief, that in communication:
- 55% is our body language.
- 38% is the tone of our voice (our tonality).
- 7% is the words we use.
Whether this breakdown is still relevant today is debatable, however the important thing to know is that our body language plays a major part in how we communicate to others.
Our nonverbal signals, our body language, tells a lot about who we are to others. If we exhibit good nonverbal communication skills, it can inform others that we are confident and trustworthy.
Similarly, if we display poor nonverbal communication skills, we can come across as being insecure, disinterested or even untrustworthy.
The better we understand different aspects of how we communicate with our bodies, the better we’ll be able to relate to others and influence them so that it’s beneficial to everyone involved.
It’s not uncommon for most of us to be harder on ourselves than we are on others. We often are our own worse critique.
What we say to ourselves, our self-talk, dictates our emotional state, which in turn, affects our attitude and outlook on life. If we’re constantly berating ourselves for not meeting a standard we’ve set ourselves, it will:
- Cause us to feel unhappy.
- Cause us to have low energy.
- Decrease our motivation levels.
- Decrease our self-confidence.
- Affect what we’re willing or not willing to do.
We all have reasons as to why we’re hard on ourselves. In order to have a healthy level of respect for ourselves, we have to know how to turn habits of self-criticism into better, empowering habits.
One of the most common excuses we hear as to why people aren’t doing the things they really want to is because they don’t have enough time.
Comments such as, “I’ll get to it when I have more time” or “I wish I had more time” or “I just don’t have enough time” confirm the fact that most of us now are so time poor.
The reality is we all have the same amount of time every day and every week — 24 hours per day and 168 hours per week. We cannot get more time, which means that in order to free up time to do what matters most to us, we must become more efficient and effective in how we do things.
When it comes to doing what matters most to us, it may include:
- Taking care of ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically, relationally and spiritually.
- Spending more time with our families.
- Learning something new.
- Planning for the future.
- Taking more time off.
- Doing things that bring us joy.
The challenge we face is finding the time to do these things, but the good news is there are things we can do daily to free up time.
For all of us, our innermost desire is to be happy in life and we spend our whole lives pursuing happiness in different ways.
As we’re all different, some of the ways we chase happiness include:
- Achieving financial success.
- Improving our personal status.
- Devoting ourselves to our families.
- Being of service to others.
- Sharing our gifts, talents and expertise with the world.
While it’s easy to buy into the idea that happiness can only be attained if certain conditions or criteria are met, the truth is happiness is something we create. In other words, we’re totally responsible for our level of happiness in life.
We don’t need external things or conditions to be satisfied, in order to feel happy. To experience greater levels of happiness, we can develop habits that automatically cause us to be happier.