Our mental and emotional health controls our daily experiences and has a major influence on our quality of life.
If we’re not mentally and emotionally healthy, not only will we tend to have some turmoil in life, we will also find it harder to cope with things that happen to us.
Mental health is becoming a more widely accepted area of focus now than it has been in the past. We’re becoming more aware that unless we’re healthy mentally, we cannot be healthy emotionally and physically.
If we consider the mind and body connection, it has been known that whenever we have a problem in our body, there’s a good chance we also have a problem in our mind.
Mental health refers to how well we use our mind through the thoughts we think and the images we hold in our minds. The thoughts and images we hold in our minds dictates our emotional state, which in turn, affects our physical state.
One of my mentors says that we cannot do positive things or make intelligent decisions if we’re in a negative emotional state.
When we’re healthy mentally and emotionally, we will:
- Be in a better mood daily.
- Not let problems slow us down.
- Find it easier to do what needs to be done.
- Not be as easily affected by other people’s actions.
- Be a lot more relaxed and happier.
It’s up to us to learn how to improve our mental and emotional health.
As numerous things compete for our attention daily, it’s now more important than ever before to know how to stayed focused on our highest priorities.
There is a saying, “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing,” which really means that what matters most is our main priorities.
As we all have different responsibilities, what’s important to one person may not necessarily be another person’s priority. The challenge we face is to stay focused on what we’re doing because we can easily get distracted with so many things now.
Most adult can easily lose or waste up to fours hours daily because of distractions, which may include watching television, surfing the internet and being on various social media platforms. Over a course of a working week, that equates to 20 hours, and around 1,000 hours per year that’s wasted.
If the average adult works for 40 years, that’s equivalent to 40,000 hours wasted during their adult life because of distractions. This means about 4.5 years of an adult’s life, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, is wasted as a result of distractions.
If we convert that into monetary terms, it’s not surprising to learn that distractions costs us more than just time. Imagine missing out on 4.5 years of income throughout our adult life. Once we start considering the opportunity costs, or the things we could have been doing instead with that time, it adds up to more than just 4.5 years of income.
It’s time to take back control and be more focused.
A key responsibility for anyone who leads a team is to keep their team members motivated, while bringing the best out of them consistently.
Whenever there are issues in teams, it can be narrowed down to a few things, which may include:
- Lack of clarity or direction for the team.
- Conflicting priorities.
- Personality clashes between team members.
- Lack of communication.
- Poor leadership.
If we lead teams, we have to know our team members well so that we can leverage their strengths and achieve our team objectives.
This is not always an easy task especially if we don’t know what the strengths of our team members are.
The thought of doing silly things as an adult, especially in a professional setting, is not something most people would not dare to do.
As we grow older, the aliveness and vibrancy we had as kids is often replaced by our desire to be liked, accepted and respected by those we interact with regularly. Saying the right things and behaving professionally becomes our focus most of the time.
If we happen to do something that is outside our normal behaviour, it can often cause others to question if everything is okay with us.
There is an inner child in all of us that likes to have fun. The more we subdue our inner child, the harder it becomes for us to relax and be our true selves.
The good thing about being silly, while being aware and respectful of the situation or context we’re in, is that it will:
- Make us feel more courageous.
- Boost our self-confidence.
- Make us more likeable and attractive.
- Help us experience more joy in our daily interactions.
- Cause us to feel good about ourselves and our life.
As lack of confidence often prevents people from going after what they really want, we can start boosting our confidence by doing silly things and having fun in the process.
Have you ever met someone who is all excited about something they want to achieve in life, only to find that they’re onto a new thing in a relatively short period of time?
It has been said that in order to achieve a dream, we must have a dream in the first place. While some people have lots of dreams, they also easily abandon those dreams for numerous reasons.
While on the surface it may not seem like a big deal to give up on a dream and move onto something else, there are some long-term psychological effects that may hinder our future efforts.
When we quit on our dreams, it can:
- Reduce our self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Make us not trust ourselves as much.
- Lose trust and respect with others.
- Lower our motivation to take appropriate action.
- Make us feel like we’ve failed.
Becoming aware of the things that can cause us to abandon our dreams is important if we want to achieve bigger and better dreams in life.
I once heard a mentor of mine say that money may not be the most important thing in life, but it’s right up there with oxygen.
Having financial stability gives us a lot more options in life. Adults spend most of their working lives earning money so that they can have the lifestyle they want, however they also make dumb mistakes when it comes to money management.
When someone is struggling financially, it:
- Affects their mindset or attitude.
- Places a lot more pressure on personal relationships.
- Can cause physical problems like stress, anxiety or mental breakdown.
- Limits their ability to take risks in order to improve their financial situation.
- Lowers their self-confidence and motivation.
The more intelligent we are financially, the better our chances of creating the life we want. We’ll also be in a better position to help others who are in need.
Our level of creativity often demonstrates how we express our true self and the frame of mind we’re in at any given time.
The more creative we are, the more we’ll feel we’re contributing in some way, while expressing our uniqueness. The truth is we’re all creative, however, we tend to lose our connection to our creativity based on our life experiences, responsibilities and how we think about our lives.
There are many advantages to developing our creativity, which includes:
- Generating more happy thoughts and positive emotions.
- Becoming better problem solvers.
- Achieving objectives or goals faster.
- Being recognised as someone who can get things done, resulting in the potential to earn more money.
- Having a higher level of self-esteem and self-confidence.
The challenge we face is making time to focus on developing our creativity so we can reap its benefits over time.
Have you ever noticed some people tend to be “lucky” consistently, whereas other people tend to continuously attract negative experiences?
Our experiences do not occur by chance or luck. We create our reality based on our thoughts, emotions and behaviours.
If we’re responsible for our reality, then we have the power to create the reality we want. The starting point is being able to condition our minds and our brains so that we maintain a healthy, positive attitude, and direct our attention to what we want to create.
The brain is an organ that’s dynamic and constantly changing based on what we’re feeding our minds. If we’re constantly stimulated in a negative way, then that’ll affect how we see ourselves, others, and how we operate in the world.
On the other hand, if we’re feeding our minds with positivity, then we’ll have a more positive outlook on life. We know there’ll be times when we go off track and get caught up in negativity, but if we’ve trained ourselves to focus on what’s positive, then it’ll be so much easier to shift our focus away from negativity.
Our job is to train our brain in such a way that it’ll be easier for us to focus on thoughts that’ll lead us to where we want to go or what we want to achieve.
There is a common misconception that in order to get further ahead, we have to constantly be doing more and continuously adding more things to our lives.
While it’s an innate human quality to desire more in life, that doesn’t necessarily mean pursuing more at the expense of the things that really matter, like:
- The quality of our closest relationships.
- The quality of our physical, emotional and mental health.
- Doing work that brings us true joy and fulfilment.
- Making a difference in some way.
If we keep adding more to our already busy lives, it’s obvious that it’ll eventually affect us in some way. For a lot of people, that results in additional stress and burnout, which not surprisingly, affects how much progress they’re able to make.
Knowing when to take on more things and when to eliminate things from our lives is a key distinction that can affect how successful we are.
It should come as no surprise that the better rested we are, the more alert, focused and effective we are as we go through our day.
The challenge we face is getting enough sleep, but more importantly, getting enough quality sleep, every night. When we don’t get an optimal amount of sleep, we usually feel out of sync and don’t operate at our best.
While getting up earlier may appear to contradict the importance of getting enough sleep, they key point is we want to ensure we get the best rest we can every night.
There are numerous advantages to getting up earlier, however the challenge for those who aren’t used to it, is to consistently do the things that will lead to the habit of getting up earlier.
Getting up even 30 minutes earlier, five days a week, gives us an extra 125 hours of awake time every year. If we get up an hour earlier, that gives us 250 hours of additional time every year.
Just imagine what you can achieve if you used that time intelligently.
An extra 30 minutes per day can be used to:
- Take care of our physical and mental health.
- Develop a new skill over a period of time.
- Learn something new that can benefit us in the future.
- Spend more time with those that matter to us.
- Start our day earlier.
The key is to implement daily disciplines that will lead us to getting better quality sleep.