7 Lies That Are Destroying Your Chances For Greater Success And More Happiness

We all have been told lies. Some lies become our beliefs that can either empower us, slow us down or hold us back from doing what we want to.

Unfortunately, for beliefs that are disempowering us, they may have originated from lies we were told, either when we were young or as we were growing up. These lies may not have been intentionally told to us but they could be having a real effect on how we live our lives.

If we are able to recognise these lies then we’ll be able to do something to overcome them. If we don’t become aware of these lies, it’s highly likely that these lies, which may now be our beliefs, will continue to sabotage our ability to achieve the success we want.

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Here are seven lies that you may have been led to believe in the past, that could be slowing you down or holding you back from truly experiencing life the way you want to.

  1. We can only succeed in life if we have a good education. This could well be one of the biggest lies we were told. While having a good education is extremely valuable and very important, it is not the only determinant for success in life. If this was true, then wouldn’t there be more people achieving greater levels of success? If you’re someone who hasn’t had the opportunity to have a good education, then it’s time to not let that stop you from achieving what you want to.

    Some of the world’s highly influential and successful people did not have high levels of formal education. As the late Jim Rohn said, “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.”

  2. Life is meant to be hard. I know people who have resigned themselves to the fact that they will be working for at least 40 years, then they will “retire” and enjoy their life, or what’s left of their life. Life is what we make of it. If we think life will be hard, then our choices and decisions will be in line with that belief. If we think life is a fun, joyous adventure, then we’ll act according to that belief. Either way, our reality will show what our beliefs are about life. Which belief would you rather choose – life is hard or life is an adventure?
  3. What others think of us actually matters. So much of what we do is to conform, please others, or not “rock the boat.” This belief is responsible for destroying so many dreams as the fear of what others may think or say stops people from attempting to do something different. As Terry Whittaker’s book, “What You Think of Me is None of My Business” suggests, other’s opinions of us should not influence what we think to be true and in our best interest.
  4. We’ll be happy when we are successful. The pursuit of success drives so many of us. This is all stems from our definition of success. It’s very common for success to be defined in terms of social status or material things. Unfortunately this belief causes so many people to continuously chase success while compromising other areas of their life like their health or relationships. Happy comes from within and it is very rare that something external or materialistic can bring us long-lasting happiness. Think about what really makes you happy.
  5. We should only try something if we know how to do it. Not knowing how to do something is a stumbling block for many of us. This notion that we must know how to do something new stops us in our tracks and causes so many of us to not even take the first step toward something new. If we look back throughout human history, anyone who has achieved noteworthy success, almost always did not know all the steps it would take for them to achieve what they wanted to. If they had tried to find out all the steps first, chances are they wouldn’t have even started the process. Oftentimes, the how shows up when are we clear, committed and have taken that first step.
  6. There is only so much for us. This belief planted the seeds of lack and limitation. We live in an abundant universe. There are plenty of ideas, opportunities and resources for all of us. We don’t have to worry about “getting our share,” which only results in people focusing on what they can get rather than what they can give. The belief that “givers gain” is a good belief to operate from. There is more than enough for all of us.
  7. We must be realistic when chasing our dreams. This idea of being realistic causes us to question the importance of our dreams and whether we’re worthy of actually achieving them. When was the last time you decided to do something, even though others did not agree with your decision, because it was important to you? We should never compromise our values, our dreams or what we believe to be true for us for the sake of being realistic. It’s time to be bold and brave!

Take a look at the results you are getting in life. If they are not what you’d like them to be, these beliefs could be playing a part as to why that may be the case. If you’re able to overcome these lies and accept what is actually true, your chances for greater success and more happiness will increase. If you don’t do anything about it, then it’s very likely you will continue to get the same type of results you have been getting. Isn’t it time for a change?

Action Step: Assess if any of these lies are holding you back from living the life you really want. If they are, adopt new beliefs to overcome these lies. Consider working with a professional who can help identify whether any of these lies have actually become part of your beliefs about life.

Question: Which lie are you now ready to let go? What new belief will you now adopt?

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  • Jane Ransom

    Right on, Neel! These types of lies can sneak up on a person, so this is a great reminder. I particularly apprepreciate #s 4 and 5. Thanks!

    • Neel Raman

      Like you, Jane, I am grateful that I have been able to move past these lies. This list is an important reminder for me too. Thanks for your comment. 🙂

  • Rachel

    Hey Neel,
    I enjoyed you knocking the myths right out of the water. Some of these statements are from growing up and others have impacted on us intentionally or unintentionally. By like you said regardless of how they got there, they certainly require a change in belief. I enjoyed your post so much I am going to link it to one of mine, to support what I have written. Thanks.
    Rachel.

    • Neel Raman

      Hi Rachel, thank you for your comment. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Please post your link here so I can read your post as well. Thanks.