5 Ways To Stay Strong When Life Is Going In The Wrong Direction

Have you ever felt that no matter what you did, your life just seemed headed in the wrong direction?

During such times, it can extremely difficult to stay focused on the task at hand and maintain a positive outlook on life. If it is any consolation, most people will experience this at some point — the severity of their experiences will vary.

I remember a time in my early twenties, when I had a severe back problem. The pain I was experiencing was so bad that I could barely lean forward to touch my knees. It affected my mobility and my ability to drive a vehicle. Not matter what I did, whether it was getting physiotherapy treatment or having regular visits to a chiropractor, I was still in a lot of discomfort. Life felt like it was headed in the wrong direction. Having a chronic back problem so early was not a part of my plan in life.

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A breakthrough happened when someone recommended having kinesiology sessions. During the first session, I discovered that I was holding onto certain emotions that were manifesting itself as a physical discomfort. Over the course of a number of sessions, I got the opportunity to release a number of these unresolved emotions which eventually helped me overcome my back pain. The releasing techniques combined with physical exercises contributed to me getting back in shape.

Having a health issue is one common example of when we feel our life is headed in the wrong direction. Here are five things we can do to stay strong during times when life seems difficult so that we can turn things around and get us back on track toward achieving our goals.

  1. Conduct a self-evaluation of your situation. When things are not going well, it is the best time to assess what’s going on. It is the perfect time to take stock of where we are, what has been contributing to our situation and where we would really like to go. Awareness is the first step toward change so we must become aware of what is going on for us currently before we can do anything different.
  2. Be appreciative for your current experiences. This may seem like an unusual thing to say but our current experiences are teaching us something valuable. Every time we have a challenge or have an experience that is not what we want, we have the opportunity to learn something from it and know how to deal with something similar in the future.
  3. Shift your focus to what you want. Oftentimes, we tend to revisit or replay the things that are not going well and all that does is it keeps our focus on what is not working well. That tends to perpetuate negative thoughts and emotions, and keeps us in a negative state. When we can shift our focus to what we want, we will automatically start thinking of ways to make it happen. All it takes is a mental switch in focus.
  4. Remember the law of rhythm. The law of rhythm states that the entire universe follows a rhythm. For example, night follows day, a high tide is followed by a low tide. Similarly, good times follow bad times. When we’re on a down swing, it is important to know that the swing will change and things will get better. Our responsibility is to get clear on what we want and focus on that.
  5. Ask, “Who can help me right now?” Usually the thing that can solve our challenge is a phone call or conversation away. It is very likely that someone has already experienced what we are going through and can offer advice that will help us. It could be via sharing a resource or introducing us to someone else who can assist us. The key lesson here is we don’t have to go through our challenges alone.

Staying mentally strong during times of uncertainty is a great characteristic to have because it will help get us back on track a lot quicker. We are never alone with our challenges and it is up to us to take the necessary steps to overcome those challenges. The things mentioned above are a great starting point to stay strong when life is going in the wrong direction.

Action Step: Identify one person you can reach out to this week who can help you with a current challenge you are experiencing. Schedule a time to contact that person within the next week.

Question: What is another way to stay strong when life is headed in the wrong direction?

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  • Jane Ransom

    Terrific! Thanks, Neel. Especially appreciate the reminder of “Who can help me right now?” There is always someone, somehow.

    • Neel Raman

      Totally agree with you Jane!! Help is always available. Thanks for your comment. 🙂