10 Reminders That Will Help You During A Difficult Time

Things to Remember if You Find Yourself Struggling Mentally or Emotionally

We all go through difficult times in life and how we deal with them often defines who we are and who we become.

The better we can handle tough times, the better our chances of not letting those experiences slow us down or stop us from making progress towards what we want. As the saying goes, “Tough people are built for tough times.”

The challenge we face is that if we don’t handle the difficult times in our lives well, it can:

  • Create unnecessary mental anguish.
  • Cause us to have mental or emotional breakdowns.
  • Place additional strain on our relationships.
  • Cause us physical pain or trigger other symptoms in our bodies.
  • Lower our motivation to do the things we want to.

Having reminders whenever we go through a difficult time will help us cope better and also overcome it easier and faster.

How to get through a difficult time

How To Free Your Mind To Be More Effective

7 Things You Can Do to Keep Yourself in a Healthy Mental State

Our capacity to produce the results we want and be the best we can be is closely related to the way we use our mind.

The better we use our mind, the more effective we’ll be, which will translate to the type of results we achieve. The more cluttered our mind, the less effective we’ll be.

If we have too many things cluttering our minds, it means our units of attention, or our ability to focus, is being taken up by different things, which will result in less attention being given to the things we want to do.

In order to more effectively use our minds, we have to give it better attention. Our thoughts form the key contents of our minds. The better we learn to harness our thoughts, the more effective we’ll be.

We’ll never get rid of all our thoughts and it should not be the objective. Our objective should be to free up mental units attention so that we can direct more attention to doing the things that’ll cause us to have greater progress in life.

How to free your mind of negativity

5 Simple Mistakes To Avoid When Influencing Other People

Things to Be Aware of if You Want to Become a More Influential Person

Our ability to influence people determines how much of an impact we can make.

If we want to make a bigger impact in the world, we have to become better at influencing other people. The dictionary defines influence as “the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behaviour and opinions of others.”

Influencing someone can often be mistaken as trying to manipulate a person but there is a significant difference. Manipulation is getting someone to do something in an unfair or forceful manner, whereas influence is getting someone to buy into something that can be a benefit to everyone involved.

When done correctly, a person who has been influenced to take a particular action, should feel they’re taking that action because they want to, and not because they were forced or manipulated into doing it.

Some of the benefits of becoming a more influential person includes:

  • Expanding other people’s vision of what’s possible.
  • Leveraging resources, knowledge and skills to reach outcomes quicker.
  • Guiding others to look at things from different perspectives.
  • Becoming a more confident and powerful person.
  • Assisting others to achieve what they want in life.

Having strong influence skills can make a huge difference in our lives. On the other hand, if we make common influence mistakes, it’ll be challenging to achieve what we want, which will also affect others getting what they want.

Mistakes to avoid when influencing people

How To Avoid Taking Things Personally

5 Things You Can Do to Avoid Being Disappointed When Things Don’t As Expected

Learning to not take things personally can be very challenging because we’ve been conditioned from a young age to be influenced by external situations.

Taking things personally means an event or experience that didn’t go the way we expected it to, has caused us to feel some type of negative emotion, whether it’s sadness, disappointment, frustration, anger or lower motivation.

Why do we take things personally?

Some of the reasons why we take things personally include:

  • We allow an event that happened to mean something about us and our identity.
  • Our beliefs and values, which we conclude to be true for us, have been violated in some way.
  • We’re insecure and find it difficult to accept the aspects of ourselves that are imperfect.

We’re all doing the best we can to live life. The danger of taking things personally is that we’re being influenced by external situations or things outside of ourselves. Instead of living from the inside out, we’re living from the outside in.

One of the most valuable things we can learn in order to have a higher level of self-awareness is to not take things personally, especially when things don’t go as planned.

Why do we take things personally

10 Things That Will Change Your Life Forever

How You Can Create a Better Life Applying These Simple Things

One thing we know about life is that change is constant. Every day, we witness and experience change.

As we get older, our bodies change, as does our perceptions and beliefs. As technology advances, the way we live our lives is also changing and evolving.

The more open we are to change, the better our chances of using what’s changing around us to our advantage. If we’re resistant to change, it’ll be much more difficult for us to incorporate the benefits of the changes happening into our lives.

On a podcast interview I recently listened to, one of the founders of the ride company, Lyft, shared that they have a vision to change everyday road travel around the world.

One of the biggest paradigm shifts for vehicle owners will to be consider not owning a vehicle but instead, sign up to a ride service that a company like Lyft provides for an annual or monthly fee. It’ll be like having a ride on-demand.

Things to do to change your life

How To Give Helpful Feedback Without Offending Someone

5 Ways to Encourage Someone to Improve Without Affecting Their Self-Confidence

We’re always receiving feedback in the form of our results. Whenever we’re not creating the results we want, we know we have to do things differently.

Similarly, we can learn to give feedback to others if they’re not making progress or meeting deadlines. Being able to provide feedback without destroying a person’s self-confidence is really valuable, especially if we’re in any type of leadership or managerial role.

I remember when I had a corporate career, performance management sessions was something I dreaded, both as a receiver and as the giver of feedback. There was always a level of discomfort going through the process because as human beings, being challenged or questioned by another person can be uncomfortable.

The good news was I always survived those sessions and they always helped me improve and I was also able to help my team members improve.

We tend to prefer positive feedback. Receiving negative feedback can be awkward at times.

How Most People Deal With Negative Feedback

  • They either reject or ignore the feedback.
  • They may get angry at the person providing the feedback.
  • They may feel discouraged by the feedback and choose not to improve.

The whole purpose of giving or receiving feedback is to improve and continually move forward towards agreed objectives. In order to prevent someone from feeling discouraged as a result of negative feedback, there are specific things we can do.

Ways to give feedback without offending

5 Things That Will Make You Have Low Self-Confidence

What to Be Aware of That May Be Costing You in Many Ways

Our level of confidence plays a big part in how we live our lives and the things we’re willing or not willing to do.

Confidence is both a belief and a feeling. When we’re confident, we know things will work out well because of our abilities, competence and capacity to figure things out.

When a person has low self-confidence, it means they lack belief in their ability to do or carry out what they want to do.

The Costs of Low Self-Confidence

  • Frustration or disappointment.
  • Lack of progress in life.
  • Additional strain on personal relationships.
  • Unwilling to take new risks.
  • Poor communication behaviours.

As our level of confidence dictates so much of what we experience in life, we must be aware of things that may be causing us to have low self-confidence.

Characteristics of low self confidence

How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Successful In Life

5 Ways to Deal With Any Internal Struggles That May Be Preventing You From Getting What You Want

We often hear about people letting their fear of failure prevent them from going for their dreams or following their passions.

While the fear of failure is commonly known, the fear of success is just as powerful but not easily recognised.

At a conscious level, most people would say they want to have more success in their lives, depending on how they define success. However, very few people will admit or even know, they may have a fear of being more successful.

All fears are internally generated. In order to become more aware of our fears, we have to be willing to spend time doing some self-reflection and introspection.

Causes of the Fear of Success

While there may be many causes or reasons for someone to have a fear of success, some of the ones to be aware of are:

  • Not wanting to be seen in a bigger way.
  • Not wanting to be taken advantage of.
  • Not wanting to stand out or be perceived as better than those around us.
  • Not wanting to embrace the truth that we have greatness within us.
  • Being comfortable playing small and conforming to what others expect of us.

The reasons behind our fears are almost always untrue. Once we start challenging them, we’ll find they’re simply ideas we’ve made up based on our past experiences or things we’ve learned.

Fear of success vs fear of failure

10 Simple Ways To Better Use Your Time Each Day

How to Intelligently Be More Productive Daily

There are times when we can trick ourselves into believing that because we’re busy, we’re also being productive.

Being busy doesn’t always mean we’re doing what’s important. Sometimes doing what’s urgent, which often are false emergencies, can cause us believe we’re productive.

As we get busier, take on new responsibilities or start new ventures, the demands on our time will continue to increase.

If we don’t have intelligent ways to use our time, it can lead to:

  • High levels of stress or pressure.
  • Feelings of overwhelm or frustration.
  • Delays in getting things completed.
  • Poor quality work.
  • Our relationships with those we interact with being affected.

Using our time intelligent doesn’t mean better time management. The reality is time cannot be managed. We can only manage ourselves or our activities in relation to the time available to us. Not matter what we try to do, we cannot increase the time available to us.

Having intelligent but simple ways to better use our time in our daily activities will help us be more productive and effective.

How to make the most of your time

5 Things You Can Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

How to Quickly Shift Your Focus if You Are Feeling Discouraged and Unmotivated

We’ve all had experiences where we’d been trying to achieve something but no matter what we did, we didn’t make any progress.

When we have those types of experiences, we can quickly feel disappointed, discouraged and unmotivated. If we don’t manage our emotions well and shift our focus, it can cause us to give up and eventually quit on what we’re trying to achieve.

There will be times when we’ll struggle to get through the middle stages of a project. During such times, we need to be able to deal with our struggles and continue moving forward.

The costs of giving up on things important to us include:

  • It will erode our self-confidence.
  • It can affect others who may be depending on us reaching a particular outcome.
  • It will make us less likely to take on bigger risks in life.
  • It can hinder our ability to do our best work consistently.
  • It can cause us to question our ability to create what we want.

As the Dalai Lama says, “Remember that sometimes, not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”

We go through ups and downs in life, and the good news is, there are things we can do to shift our focus when we feel like giving up.

How to keep going when you feel like giving up on life