Failure can be our greatest teacher in life. It’s inevitable we’ll have our fair share of failure as we pursue bigger goals in life.
It’s often said that if we’ve never failed, it means we’ve never tried anything new or stepped outside of our comfort zone.
If what we do or don’t do is driven by our desire to avoid failing, we will struggle to get to higher levels of achievement.
Winston Churchill said, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”
Reasons Why We Fail
- Lack of persistence.
- Lack of knowledge.
- Lack of effective plans.
- Lack of self-belief.
- Giving up too soon.
- Not learning from past mistakes or failures.
- Not taking personal responsibility for our results.
- Not taking effective action.
- Not being clear about what we want or where we want to be.
- Not willing to ask for help when we face challenges.
If we want to achieve more success, we have to embrace failure and view it differently.
The quality of our lives comes is related to the quality of decisions we make. The better our decisions, the better results we will create in all areas of our lives.
How to make better decisions is not something we are taught at a young age. We often learn to make right decisions from our experiences and mistakes.
Why is it Difficult to Make Decisions?
There are many factors that affect our ability to make decisions, which include:
- Doubt and uncertainty.
- Fear of the consequences by imagining worse-case scenarios.
- Fear of being judged by others.
- Fear of looking foolish or stupid.
- Fear of the costs of making mistakes.
We have to be willing to accept that there will be times when we will make wrong decisions, but we should always learn from those decisions.
We all experience fear, which plays out in different ways for each person. For some of us, it plays out as excuses we make for why we aren’t achieving the results we want.
For others, it may play out as justification, being practical or being responsible. Fear can be useful because it helps keep us safe, but all too often, that level of safety becomes our comfort zone.
How Does Fear Affect You
When we give in to our fears, it can:
- Create self-doubt in our ability to do something we’ve never done before.
- Stop us from pursuing our dreams.
- Put additional strain on our closest relationships.
- Lower our self-confidence and self-esteem.
- Lead to regret later on in life.
If we allow fear to control us, it will dictate what we will or will not do. We have to learn to overcome the fears that are holding us back from creating the outcomes we want.
There is a popular saying, “We don’t get a second chance to make a first impression.” While this is true, it can also cause people to not be their true selves.
It’s natural for us to want to be liked by others, so we often behave in ways we think is acceptable. The problem with this is we will always default back to our everyday habits over time.
Sometimes that will be acceptable by certain people, but there is also a risk that others may not be impressed when we return back to our “normal” way of behaving.
Trying to impress someone by not being our true, authentic selves can cost us in many different ways including:
- Broken professional or personal relationships.
- Receiving negative reviews especially if we’re in a service-based profession.
- Financial loss as a result of broken relationships.
- Mental and emotional stress.
- Health challenges.
We have to always be aware of how we come across to others especially in the different situations we find ourselves in.
Our ability to stay focused on anything we’re doing determines the quality of our outputs or results. The better we focus, the better results we’ll produce.
The challenge we all face today is that it’s so easy to get distracted. With so many advances in technology, such as all the different smart devices available to us, being able to stay focused is a major challenge for most people. Unfortunately, our smart devices are making us more distracted than ever before.
Today, distraction removal has become the new focus. The better we’re able to eliminate distractions from our everyday lives, the better we’ll be able to focus.
Focus is a muscle and it’s also a process, which means we can learn how to improve it. An important thing to be aware of is we don’t have focus, we do focus. If focus is something we do, then there are things we can implement to get better at doing it, just like improving any other skill.
There are a number of reasons why improving our focus will be beneficial to us and they include:
- Getting more done in a shorter period of time.
- Producing better quality outputs.
- Creating more free time as a result of being more effective.
- Feeling less stressed or overwhelmed.
- Being happier and in a better mood.
Learning how to focus better is now a critical skill if we want to have a better quality life.
I’ll admit this is an area I struggle with as I tend to work more than I should. Over the past couple of years, I’ve taken steps to change my habit of working too much.
We’re in a global culture of being busy. Whenever we say we’re busy, it’s like a badge of honour because it makes us feel we’re important and we actually matter. We also use being busy as an excuse not to pursue what we really want to do in life.
If we ask most people what they’re busy with, it almost always comes down to day-to-day responsibilities and working to make ends meet. The truth is most people are busy doing work they would rather not be doing. So we get caught in this trap of being busy, doing work that’s not inspiring or fulfilling, which takes us away from what we’d rather be doing.
5 Signs You’re a Workaholic
- You spend a lot more time working than originally planned, which cuts into your evenings and weekends.
- You put your work before other areas of your life like health, relationships or family.
- You use work as a distraction not to face the real issues or challenges going on in your life.
- You free up time, that is, give up your leisure time, so you can do more work.
- You are highly stressed and fatigued, which generates feelings of anxiety, frustration and overwhelm.
It’s time to stop working ourselves to the ground and break the workaholism trap.
There is a major shift happening in the world where certain behaviours that may have tolerated in the past are now no longer acceptable.
A global awakening is occurring where different biases that may involve gender, race, religious or cultural backgrounds, sexual orientation or preference, or political views are not excuses for behaving in ways that may cause harm to another person or violate their rights.
This is a good time to look at why certain behaviours may be tolerated, without any judgment, so that we can have more awareness of what is acceptable and what’s not, and be in a better position to make choices that will support us in accomplishing what we want, without putting ourselves at risk.
When I graduated from university and started a career in manufacturing and logistics, I worked for a packaging company that consisted of a site manager and a few supervisors who were responsible for different departments. My initial role was in planning and purchasing so I didn’t have direct responsibility for workers on the shop floor.
Have you ever experienced being totally motivated one day and then struggling to even get out of bed the next day?
It reminds me of a Zig Ziglar quote on motivation: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.”
We all go through phases in life where we find it hard to get ourselves to do things we know we should do like exercising regularly, eating healthy foods, staying hydrated daily, or getting enough sleep each night, to name a few.
So we need to ask ourselves why we lose our motivation. Some of the common reasons include:
- Doing the same things over and over.
- Not feeling joy in what we’re doing.
- Doubting whether what we’re doing will make a difference at all.
- Experiencing higher than normal levels of stress or anxiety.
- Comparing ourselves to others and generating feelings of not being good enough.
While these are valid reasons, there are three other reasons that are at the core of why we lose our motivation.
Has this ever happened to you? You get to the end of a year and wonder, “What happened this year?” or “What did I actually achieve this year?”
You had started the year with a lot of enthusiasm and hoped that this would be “the year” in which you had big breakthroughs and moved your life forward in a big way. However, things may not have worked out the way you wanted and now you feel like you’ve not made any significant progress over the past year.
If you’re like me, then you know that feeling we’ve not made any real progress in our lives can be demotivating and cause us to question whether we have what it takes to achieve what matters most to us.
The bad news is unless we’re aware of what may have caused us to fall short in achieving what we wanted, it’s very likely we’ll do the same things again and achieve similar type of results this year.
The good news is things can be different. By becoming aware of certain mistakes that prevented us from achieving what we wanted this past year, we can make the changes necessary and achieve big breakthroughs this year.
What is a Big Breakthrough?
A breakthrough means achieving an outcome that will make a significant improvement or bring forth a major benefit in our lives. As we’re all different and have different priorities, what we consider to be breakthroughs may be different.
For example, for one person, earning an additional $50,000 in one year may be a significant breakthrough, whereas for another person, that figure may not be a big deal at all.
A Free Gift So You Can Win Big This Year
Our ability to be creative comes down to finding a connection between two unrelated things and determining the value that emerges as a result of that new connection.
Put simply, being creative is very similar to what learning is, which is connecting something we know to something we don’t know.
Some questions that often arise around the topic of creativity include:
- Are some people naturally more creative than others?
- Are we born creative or is it something we develop?
- Is creativity genetic?
- Why do some people appear to be more creative than others?
- What makes a person creative?
Some of the beliefs around creativity includes:
- Right-brained people are more creative.
- We’re either creative or we’re not.
- Highly creative people are not normal, maybe even a little weird.
- We can’t all be creative.
While there will always be different ideas or opinions around why some people are more creative than others, the truth is creativity is something that can be developed.