Knowing how to deal with uncertainty can be a major advantage as we navigate through or deal with changes that are happening daily.
Whenever we feel uncertain about something in our lives, it can generate unnecessary stress, anxiety and can also affect our motivation to be the best version of ourselves.
Those who can embrace uncertainty when things are constantly changing are more likely to do what’s required to create and live the life they want.
It’s highly likely that based on what we know now, if we could go back in time, we probably would make some better decisions. We’re always doing the best we can based on what we know.
If we take that concept, knowing that uncertainty will always be a part of our lives, we have to learn to deal with it better. This is where we can learn from those who are emotionally healthy and make better choices for our lives.
As more and more opportunities come our way, being able to delegate effectively will be vital if we want to meet our objectives.
The reality is we can’t “do it all” because not only is it exhausting mentally, emotionally and physically, it also may not be the best use of our time.
It doesn’t matter who we are, whether we’re a stay-at-home parent, employee, or business owner, being able to free up time to focus on high-value activities is critical to getting things done on time and achieving the success we want.
Examples of high-value activities include:
- If you’re a business owner or entrepreneur, it may be focusing on innovation and revenue-generating strategies.
- If you’re a parent, it may be spending quality time with your children.
- If you’re an employee, it may be moving a major project forward in order to meet your deadlines.
The better we’re able to delegate low-value activities, the more time we will free up so that we can focus on what’s most important.
Our ability to communicate well and explain things simply is a critical skill to have if we want to lead with confidence and have the impact we’d like to.
Throughout history, great communicators have left a lasting legacy because of their ability to influence the thoughts and actions of audiences through the power of words.
If we want to make a bigger difference in our families, communities, our work, or in the world, we must develop the ability to speak confidently and explain things more effectively.
Whenever we’re speaking, there are always two things we have to do well, which are:
- Figuring out what to say, and
- Knowing how to say it.
Having structures or frameworks can help us understand things better, which will also help us explain things better. Structures help us say things more effectively and avoid confusion.
Whenever there’s confusion, there may be different interpretations of what’s being said, which can result in wrong actions being taken.
If we want to be known for our communication abilities, having structures we can use at any time, is highly beneficial.
Oh No! Half my day’s gone and I haven’t done anything productive!
Have you ever been in a similar situation? You had high intention for your work day but somehow the day just “got away” from you?
If you’ve had such an experience, you’re not alone. We’ve all had days, where due to unforeseen events or circumstances, we weren’t able to do what we had intended do.
Today, it’s become extremely important that we eliminate distractions and improve our ability to focus on what needs to be done if we want to progress towards our goals.
Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we may get sidetracked and lose focus, so it’s valuable to have strategies or tactics to be able to turn around a bad or unproductive day.
Most days, I will identify at least five big things I want to get done, related to a particular goal or project I’m working on. Usually by the middle of the afternoon, I will have three or fours things done, which will leave me the rest of the afternoon to finish off the last thing.
Our daily busyness often creates mental turmoil and chaos, so having a way to recalibrate and refocus on what’s important is extremely valuable.
Being able to give ourselves quiet time on a regular basis and doing some self-reflection is a powerful technique that can help us be more successful.
What is Self-Reflection
Self-reflection can be likened to a mindfulness technique, where we deliberately put ourselves in a quiet state to recall events or experiences from the past, observe or acknowledge our current reality, and contemplate the future we want to create.
If we consider professional sports teams and athletes, there is a high probability that after every match, game or competition, they will review how they performed in terms of what worked, what did not go to plan, and what they can do to improve next time they’re competing.
Imagine how a team or an athlete would perform if they did not track how they were performing or they did not establish strategies or tactics to improve. There’s a high probability they won’t improve as fast as they would like, if at all, and they’ll keep doing the same things over and over and keep getting the same results.
The sad reality is that’s what most people do with their lives. They don’t allow themselves to pause and reflect on where they are and where they want to be.
No matter how aware we are or how positive we think we are, we still have negative thoughts that creep into our minds.
These negative thoughts or voices can be helpful at times, provided we’re able to redirect them to something more constructive or meaningful.
The danger of not dealing with these voices in an intelligent way include:
- Not feeling good about ourselves, which will affect our confidence and self-esteem.
- Having a poor outlook or view of the future.
- Feeling mentally and emotional tired or drained.
- Not being able to focus well on what we’re doing.
- Not being willing to take new risks in life.
It’s highly unlikely we’ll ever be able to totally quieten our minds. The question then becomes, “Do we really want to quieten our minds or do we want to redirect our negative voices to something more constructive or meaningful?”
The voices in our heads are thoughts we’re generating. We all have thoughts but we’re not our thoughts; we’re the thinker of our thoughts.
Since we’re the thinker of our thoughts, we always have the choice to think new thoughts.
There are days when we don’t feel at our best and our energy level is not where we want it to be.
We sometimes feel flat or down, whether it’s due to our daily stresses, or if we’ve experienced disappointment, or maybe we did not get enough sleep the night before.
No matter what our reasons are for not being at our best, if we don’t do something to get ourselves feeling energised again, we will:
- Go through our day with lower motivation and focus.
- Increase the likelihood of making mistakes as we’re working.
- Not produce our best quality work.
- Take longer to finish tasks or projects.
- Feel disappointed because we may not have given our best effort.
There are simple and practical things we can do to re-energise and give ourselves an energy boost, without resorting to choices such as energy drinks, coffee or eating unhealthy foods.
There is something admirable about people who are resilient and keep going no matter what obstacles they face.
Stories of struggle often become lessons in how to stay strong, be persistent and solve problems in order to achieve goals. The term “resilient” is often used to describe someone who has been through difficult challenges and has been able to overcome them.
What is Resilience?
In it’s simplest definition, resilience is someone’s capacity to deal with, adapt and overcome challenges in life.
These challenges can be everyday stresses, trauma, tragedy or any significant emotional event that will require someone to use their mental and emotional strength to get through them.
Why is Resilience Important?
There are many benefits to having a higher level of resiliency and these include:
- It will develop our mental strength.
- It will increase our self-confidence.
- It will cause us to learn more and develop more of ourselves.
- It will help us develop more patience.
- It will help us clarify our priorities.
The more we can develop our ability to be resilient, the greater the likelihood we will overcome our challenges with more ease and a lot less stress.
Although quitting is not always bad, when we do quit on something important to us, it can affect us in many ways.
There will be occasions when quitting on our goals can be the best choice for us at the time, however we have to be mindful it doesn’t become a repetitive pattern.
Reasons Why We Quit
Whenever we quit, we’ll come up with reasons as to why we’ve done so, which in our minds, can be valid reasons. Here are some of the common reasons why we quit.
- Not seeing improvement or progress.
- Don’t know what to do to move forward towards something we want.
- Lack of discipline or motivation because we find ourselves struggling in some way.
- Don’t have adequate skills or knowledge to make progress.
- Lack of support or not having a peer group.
- Lack of confidence or high levels of self-doubt.
If we’re not aware of the reasons why we quit, we may be repeat our behaviours without consciously knowing we’re doing it.
Most people will spend more time planning a one-off event than they will planning their life or creating a life plan.
This may include a vacation, a wedding, a birthday or anniversary celebration. Occasionally people will set New Year’s resolutions but they are often short-lived.
Rarely do most people plan their life in any significant detail. This suggests that our priorities are mixed up.
While having a plan for our lives may not be necessary, having one compared to not having one, will give us greater clarity and a higher probability that we will achieve what we want, or at least, get closer to where we want to be.
It’s better to have an idea of where we are heading than to just drift along in life, hoping we’ll somehow get to a better destination.
Having a plan for our lives can be the our guiding post and help us make the right decisions to move us closer to where we want to be.